Anger Following Brain Injury

I was involved in an accident where I was hit while sitting still. I had a concussion and now I have headaches that feel like getting hit in the head with a bat. I go from 0 to 100 instantly. I try to distance myself when I feel annoyed. My heart rate increases and I want to lash out physically.

Today I walked 8 1/2 miles because I wanted to explode. The walk calmed me but I still found my heart rate up and thoughts of rage.

Before hitting my head I was rational. This is scary and causing me to seclude myself just to avoid going off.

Will I or a TBI anger person suffer from this for life , even though they have been taking medication and doing therapy early on , when accident happened ? I have headache's and still see a nuerologist at Uof M hopeing for help there . Thank you for sharing .

I don’t know how or why it happens to me but i will get very mad and violent for no reason at all out of no where and i can’t stop myself no matter what i do to prevent or stop what is happening one min i will be laughing in everything is ok and then i just start punching people n things close to me and I’m unable to stop myself it’s like I’m sitting in the backseat just watching it all happen and I’m powerless to stop it i need help but nothing works I’ve been to therapy and anger management but that just makes it worse or does nothing to help any advise please I’m willing to try anything

My partner has been through neuropathy where he couldn’t walk for 3 years. Then he went through stage 4 cancer of the mouth. Now he has fluid on the brain. They can’t do any stints or camera in the brain to help. The last 3 weeks he gets mad and moves out for a night. Does someone know if this is probably because of the fluid. How can I help him and is it good to get in a group to talk about it

My son suffered a car accident 3 yrs. Ago. I know there are groups out there for tbi. But at times i feel so alone in the daily struggles of taking care of him. He can become so controling and angry for little things that the rest of my family members want me to get rid of him
At times i feel that might be a solution. It so heart wrentching to see a child who had so much possibility decline. He doesnt want to try to read write or learn. H

I think the best thing to do is to get involved with a brain injury program. This will help the person and families to see they are not alone. God bless all of you. I forgot that, before anything, prayer.

How can you get interest back in caring about yourself?

I just wanted to extend my encouragement to all those suffering with this, and those who are affected by the anger of their loved one. My fiance was in a car accident and hit his head on the steering wheel, suffering from a big hematoma and most likely a concussion. He is a black man and the accident only happened because CHP ignored him when he was asking for direction at the Mexican Border, he presumed that their stares in response to his hand gestures to make a uturn meant it was okay to, and they watched him with eye contact as he slowly got on to the wrong side of the freeway. This is what racism does. Unfortunately someone died in the accident, and he's now facing vehicular manslaughter charges along with suffering from the brain injury. His behavior was presumed to be that of a drunk driver by the cops and hospital staff, hey treated him as such before receiving toxicology. They interrogated him, drugged him, and tortured him with improper catheter insertion before finding out that he had nothing in his system, and then threw him in jail with a bleeding penis in isolation for 14 days with no medical attention, no scans, and an allergic reaction to the antipsychotic he was overdosed on. We have both suffered a great deal from this, we lost our vehicle and insurance won't pay for a new one until 90 days after the trial is over. He cannot work and has all the symptoms including psychological, metabolic, cardiac and sleep. I didn't know the symptoms were TBI related for an entire year, I assumed it was from the antipsychotic and the effects never wore off. He hasn't been the same since, and I miss the man I fell in love with. I'm glad he's alive on days when he is almost normal, but constantly walking on eggshells to avoid triggering his anger. I cannot express myself, I am not a part of a relationship and instead I am just trying to help him survive through this jury trial, and getting him the proper medical help. I feel as if I have lost him, and I grieve every day. He only has a public defender and his trial is at the end of January, we finally got a diagnosis, but now have to fight in court to prevent eviction because he spent the entire month of December in and out of the hospital. We have lost nearly all loved ones, because nobody understood. We are self employed and operate a business together, I am doing everything myself. Any encouragement, advice, or legal help is much appreciated. I'm praying for us all.

In 2010 I was punched in the head (right frontal lobe) several times with in a matter of seconds; lost consciousness, have a slight crack in my skull and MRI’s that show restricted blood flow. I get horrible Migraine headaches that no RX can help. Over the course of the last 6 months any little thing can make me angry in milliseconds. Hard to describe and lasting impacts when it happens. I hold a full time job and a part time job. I’m either awake for days or go to sleep as soon as I get home. How do I deal with this and where can I go for treatment?

I can totally Relate to this, my husband suffered a sever TBI going on 4 years ago he was working at a timber yard mill when one day he was hit in the forehead and was sent back and fell and injured the right side of his head, his anger in the last year has been uncontrollable scary and its getting worse, lately he has been carring weapons around in public with him, he got into a disagreement while we where up town , he then used his weapon to defend himself as the other person was as angry as my husband and who also had a weapon, as a result of this he has been placed in prison for this incident , we have 5 children together all aged between 14 - 19 years of age, and we are shattered and are very concerned for his safety in prison, one knock to his head and it could be a very bad outcome, we love him support him care for him , living with a person with a head injury TBI is like we are starting a new life with many many challenges but we will continue to love and help him find ways to cope.

My husband fell from a 4 story roof. Among other injuries he also has a tbi. He used to be so sweet and kind to me, but not so much anymore. I need to help him but he is such an angry person now,nothing lime the man I married. I don't know what else to do but divorce ...even though I still live the man I married with all my heart, he is no longer that person and I never know when his anger will surface.

I have read through all these comments, four or five times in the last two years. Usually when I am at a really low place, and it helps me forgive myself. The guilt and grief of not being able to present yourself in a way that you are proud of is unbearable. Much more so than the actual outburst of anger. I feel as though we take too much responsibility, I know the faster I forgive myself the quicker the anger ceases. Background on me, I am a 40-year-old, first concussion age 6 last one 3 years ago, 10 others in between. A skull fracture and a fracture c3 vertebrae. Constant pain, head, neck, shoulders, chest. Pain is all head injury when well rested, little pain. Popping constantly in the head, like your ears when you are climbing a mountain in a car, except it occurrs whenever the brain is tired, happens constantly, more than one per second, drives me nuts and will last for days at a time. Lucky if I get 4 hours of very interrupted sleep. Very physically active until the last concussion. Since that time any exertion throws me into a rage that the last three or four days. Be that physical mental or emotional exertion. The pattern goes like this I'm sure some of you know it, rage, apathy, depression, suicidal. Exercise and sports were a great outlet before. Anxiety is very extreme, I only go to work, and my attendance is atrocious, if it wasn't for my sweet wife who now runs the business side of things We would never make it. I am angry and bitter at everyone I know, I don't speak to my family, I feel as though they were not there for me, and my feelings are too hard to let them Back into my life. I feel very disconnected from God and have not felt his presence in years. It is as though the part of the brain that can feel God got damaged with the rest of it. I find that I hope is the greatest resource. Hope that someday, I can be more of myself. Hope that someday, I can learn to deal with it correctly or medicine will catch up, or enough time will pass. I have done neurofeedback, bought a hyperbaric, been extremely diligent with every diet that is supposed to help, spent close to 1000 $ a month on different supplements, yoga, meditation, cbd cannabis oils. All of these things help, until you push too hard, be that physical chemical or emotional, and then you are right back at square one. The hard part is you start to get better, and so you try to jump back into life, and your brain says wait a second you're screwed up what the hell are you thinking. I have a wonderful wife that is very supportive and beautiful loving children, that I can't stand, they are just too much, God help us all!

I was hit in the front right portion of my head with an aluminum base ball bat when I was 16. After that I've had mood swings and little stressors like loud kids or my wife asking me to do something I forgot throws me into a rage. It's not until the next day that I even realize that I was acting like this. Could this be from a TBI? I'm 34 now and I still have this issue.

After reading the comments, I thought I'd add in some of the other things that happened when I was assaulted overseas.

I also had a stuttering problem, but worst of all was the inability to finish a sentence.  It's like today, when I have a tangential angle that I want to highlight, I can normally add it in, but after the assault, I could only stop and try to think about what I was talking about, but not remember, and then get frustrated because of it.  That was another negative thing that has gone away now.  When I get angry now, I can forget things similar to that, but nowhere near like it used to be.

I have had numerous TBI's the worst in 2011 after I retired from the navy, I started having seizures but these were knock out ones I guess.. my brain just stopped and went to heart beat and breathing. I was standing all four times.. by the last one I knew who I was but who was that? I was so lost I could only walk straight down a street only or I would get lost.. at first I honestly don't know much of any thing. 5 years later I start to realize that I have been gone. I'm physically there but baby no one was home. My problem now is omg rage hate anger screaming what the f is wrong with me.. it's like some fricken force is just like a locamotave full speed pulling 100 cars is taken control over my body I'm screaming stop to myself inside but it has some strange force that takes me for a ride. I'm 51 years old acting worse then 4 year old. I lost my children, wife parents siblings. There to embarrassed to go out with me cause you don't know what you will get. Well there all gone know. I try everything

I've played hockey for a very long time and then I added lacrosse a short time ago. I never had a real head injury until a few years ago then it seemed I got them quickly a lot in a short time. I only went to the doctor after the last one -- in which I was hit near the temple by a lacrosse ball with no helmet. That he one that has made me choose to leave sports (due also to the fact I've fractured my L5 twice separated my SI joint and my knees permanently dislocate. But back to what I was saying, I've had a bad anger out burst problem and they were always unprovoked. They've caused me to lose the love of my life and I'm just now seeking help.

My daughters severe TBI from a MVA 3 years ago has been one long nightmare. No one told us about the extreme anger. We are dealing with it now but I had to leave for a while because of the physical abuse and being told that I was the cause of her anger (I know now it is the brain injury) just devastated me.

Understanding should've come first and then together the two of you could have identified what was going on and resolved the issues appropriately ....rather then by abandonment due to the unknown ! Here's hoping you helped him through his differences! God bless!!!